Monday, July 24

To Argue, Or Not To Argue?

I was considering this question in my head as i was finishing work at the restaurant last nite.

Many times there will be ppl who think opposite of wad you think...
& they will want to argue with wad you think as if they are totally right and you are wrong...
wad shud i do?
Option #1: Holler Back! Fight fire with fire till one side of the firewall tumbles!
Option #2: Take it... Only answer gently...
Option #3: Drop It Like It's Hot! Walk away...

#2 is usually the measure i take...
i smile & listen to wad this emotional preacher has got to say...
if i feel like it, i will come up with a clever twist...
but usually i jz stay silent.

Sometimes i wonder if i shud hav, #1, raised my voice & argued with him...
I wonder if that form of retaliation will be productive...
none of the points we discuss will ever be understood nor pondered by our opponent because both of us will be to mentally occupied with finding a way to lash out at the other...
Like two high walls banging against each other...
But it will feel real good to win thou...

But as a Christian shudnt i, #3, walk away?
As i pondered this with God in mind...
I found tat when a person is set in his thinking no ammount of pounding or obvious propaganda will ever sway his mentality...
Therefore, it wud be pointless for me to wana argue with such a person.

Then i pondered on wad cud be done to change the thinking of a determined person...
I found tat i cannot do much...

Wad can i do to change the thinking of a hardened fool?
Pray...
only God will be able to reach another person without having to meet a mentally errected firewall.
Only afta God has reached a person, will the walls of Jericho come falling down & true understanding be formed...

Read this article afta work last nite & it helped back wad i think...

Adapted from Experiencing God Day-by-Day
by Broadman & Holman Publishers

Not Quarrelsome
And the servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient. ~ 2 Timothy 2:24
There should be no quarrelsome Christians. The truth of God is within us; we need never be intimidated or frustrated by those who do not accept God's truth.
At times people may disagree with you regarding God's Word. Perhaps they question the way you say He is leading you, or they may challenge your faith in God. At times like these it is never helpful to argue. You will never debate anyone into the kingdom of God. You will never persuade someone that God has spoken to you by out arguing them! Only God can convince others of the veracity of His word to you. If you will allow God to vindicate you in His time, and in His way, a time will come when the wisdom of your choice will be evident (Luke 7:35). If you find yourself often quarreling with others, you need to ask God to clearly reveal your motives and to forgive you for your disobedience to His clear command.
If your motivation for arguing comes from your desire to be right, or to be exonerated, or to gain the esteem of those listening to you, you are acting selfishly, and God will not honor you. God is not interested in how right you are. He is interested in how obedient you are. God's command is not that you win arguments, but that you are kind and forgiving when others mistreat you. You bring God no honor by winning a dispute in His name, but you reflect a Christlike character when you demonstrate patience to those who mistreat you or misunderstand your motives. Arguing may never win people to your view, but loving them as Christ does will win you many friends over time!

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